Quote of the Week 3: The Trouble with Friends

Your dreams and ambitions are often at the mercy of other people and their opinions. How often have you have had an idea, ambition, dream or purpose that you’ve put on the back burner? How often have you stopped in your tracks and given up on your passions? Why do we do this? Why are we so often at the mercy of what other people think, and say?



How are countless dreams, ambitions and conquests destroyed?

Destroyed by other people and their reactions

Worst of all, very often destroyed by the last person you’d ever imagine: your friend!

How do they do this? Because they tell you You can’t do that!”  Such an attack can begin to sow doubt, hesitation and uncertainty in your mind. You may even give up on your ambitions, your dreams altogether.

But who would dare to say You can’t do that!”  to you? And why?

It could be any person close to you: family member, friend, acquaintance, loved-one.

“You can’t do it!” But why such a massive put-down?

“You’ll never make it! ” Why do they destroy your bold ambitions? Try so hard to stop you? Torpedo your passions your dreams.

How do your friends, with the best will in the world, make themselves your greatest enemies?

Simple. All those negative put downs! They insist, and keep on insisting: “You CAN’T!

So, again, why would they do that? I believe one clear reason is their misguided love, concern, and fears for you. The very last thing they want is to see you hurt.

Friends and family are usually loving, wanting the very best for your life. But their advice isn’t always right for you.

They wouldn’t see themselves as your enemies at all, they are convinced they’re not simply being negative. They passionately believe they are helping you to avoid a great mistake.

It’s their way of protecting you from the painful danger, disappointment and disaster they imagine.

Yes, of course. They really do love you. Yet that very beautiful attitude has klled a million dreams! 

What to do?

Listen, but then you decide.

Listen to what they say, Think about it dispassionately. Love them back, thank them from the depths of your heart for their loving concern.

But . . . but . . .

But never, ever let them destroy your dreams. Follow your head, but also your heart and your gut feelings and instincts.

Never say “I can’t” until you’ve given it everything. Your genuine dream deserves your best shot.

After all, it’s your life at stake, not theirs!

Blessings, Love and Peace to you and yours

Gerry McCann

@themerry_monk

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2 COMMENTS ON

“Quote of the Week 3: The Trouble with Friends”


  1. Jeff says:

    So true! Need say no more.

    1. Many thanks Jeff. Thanks for reading and commenting so positively.
      Hope all’s well with you.
      Peace, love and blessings to you and your loved ones.
      Gerry McCann
      The Merry Monk

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